The real difference, to me.

I got a text today, well the Bear got a text because I don’t have a cell phone. What and where is going on with my oldest in regards to evening plans, that are up in the air.

I heard the sound, he has his own so we know it’s not ‘junk mail’ and just at the same moment the Bear was going out the door. Before I realized Bear was on His way out I asked, ‘so what’s up’?

I looked around, came out of the kitchen and realized the Bear was in the driveway ….

Before D/s and this new ‘dynamic’ I would have felt the need to go outside, check on the message and make sure all the things needing attention were taken care of …. before I would have felt the need to stop my evening R&R and get back ‘at it’.

Today, …. today I heard the ring, realized the Bear had just stepped out and I turned around and thought, ‘oh well, He’s got it. If He has a question He’ll ask, otherwise, He’s got this …’ *wink*

Before I felt I needed to take care of everything …. now I have a partner!

Our relationship started to change because we had kids I think, I made myself responsible, I became Momma Bear, don’t we all? But the Bear didn’t step up and I didn’t ask … we both made mistakes. We have learned ….

So today, I turned around and walked away …. He’s got this. That’s what’s really changed, that’s what the calm is all about! *grin*