Chastity – no thank you.

I've become aware of some posts on chastity recently that have me thinking. I know it is not something for me, I know it would not enhance my submission it would actually reverse that process. I'm pretty hard-core so it did take an awful long time to happen, emphasis on awful, but it did happen…

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Annoyed, but still respectful.

Today I find myself a bit annoyed with The Bear. Yes, I am allowed to have feelings despite being His submissive, it's how I go about dealing with them that makes the difference! I've tried to rationalize the issue but it's not going away so I know I need to talk to Him about it.…

Irony of submission

There are many times in life that I laugh wryly at what goes on around me but this time it's just a good old-fashioned, knowing chuckle! I just wrote something yesterday that put the irony of my relationship front and center! The misconception of submission, at least mine anyway. I started down this road of…

Then and now

Things I have learned that make this 'thing' real for us, for me. The things that are not sexy or kinky or about titles and labels. The things that are not about what He says and does but what I do and think instead. We have always had a good marriage, a good connection and…

Owning your emotions

It really drives me crazy when I see and read people trying to hide their thoughts and emotions from their partners or when submissives are told that they are not allowed to have emotions. Real life has real issues and needs real conversations and communication to succeed. I wrote this 2 years ago as well…

Effective communication ….

Originally written November 1, 2015. I had a conversation that brought it to mind, instead of rewriting the same issue, I'll just re-blog! 😉  One of the major components of our D/s relationship is honest and effective communicating of wants and needs on both sides. It would be nice to say there were no issues that…

Submission 101 – Manners

Read something today that touched on this subject - since I wrote this at the beginning of my blogging experience and many were not yet here I thought it would be worth a re-blog!  Sounds simple enough, everyone knows you should have good manners. I can't imagine any dominant that would be okay with having…

Drawing Parallels

Brand new day and back to work after a bit more than a week off, brand new hours and a new group to work with .... so of course in the midst of all my 'flying by the seat of my pants' I draw parallels to D/s relationships! *giggle* It links back in a way…

Why D/s? (sexually speaking)

I don't normally write about the sexual aspect of my relationship and I still have no intention of going into any personal details but I was thinking about how would I explain to a friend what and why I would choose to be sexually submissive to my husband, for the sake of the sex alone.…