I am a 40 something year old married woman and a D/s couple since 2012. We have been married 20+ years and they have all been very wonderful. Sir has always been very kind and mostly attentive … 🙂
The D/s dynamic has allowed us to reconnect on an even deeper level. The honesty in our relationship leaves absolutely nothing to question making us so much closer then ever before. (Not that we would have thought it possible.)
The biggest change for myself has been learning to truly respect and admire my husband/Sir for everything he does. Knowing what pleases Sir allows me to do my best for him. Knowing he has a calm and strong hold over us allows me to be at peace.
As much as I do not subscribe to labels I will say that the closest to my personality type would be the ‘Warrior Princess Submissive” should anyone want a closer look at my point of view.
You can follow My Story from the beginning and see the changes and ways we have made this work. Feel free to ask anything you might be curious about, I will try my best to answer from my own experiences and point of view.
The Warrior Princess: Michael Makai
“Ever get the feeling, when you read about all the “classic” categories of submissive, that there must be one missing? You know which one we’re talking about. The missing submissive is the one that is the wicked-smart, strong-willed, uber-competent, ultra-competitive, synergistic, switchy, crusader. She’s no one’s doormat, never a victim. She is a kick-ass submissive for the 21st century. Think: Xena, the Warrior Princess, kneeling at the feet of Hercules.
This definitely isn’t a woman in a precarious predicament waiting helplessly for her White Knight to arrive and slay a dragon for her. This was a woman who, as she is kicking the dragon’s ass, smiles at the White Knight standing on the sidelines and says, “Hey, buddy! Feel free to jump right in and lend your sword to this fight. Otherwise, stay the hell out of my way!” The Warrior Princess doesn’t need or want a rescuer. The Warrior Princess needs an ally that she can rely upon in the chaos of battle. She seeks a warrior equal to the tasks that she has already chosen for herself, and is demonstrably capable of accomplishing with, or without, his help. She is willing and able to fight the good fight alone, but welcomes the notion of having a worthy partner, fighting by her side. And yet, when the day’s fighting is done, she is perfectly at ease with considering herself entirely His – heart, might, mind, body, and soul.
Why is she important? She is important because she just may be the hope and salvation of this lifestyle. There will come a day, in the not too distant future, when the Warrior Princess Submissive will be forced to become a combatant in a highly politicized war on the BDSM lifestyle. It will be a propaganda war that characterizes all Dominants as abusers and all submissives as victims of abusive and exploitative relationships. When she comes out of the shadows and chooses to fight for this lifestyle instead of against it – as many of her contemporaries will expect her to do – her strong moral compass will reassure those on the sidelines that she is doing what is right and just. ”
Michael Makai is the author of the Amazon best-seller, Domination & Submission: The BDSM Relationship Handbook.
Don’t you feel that when He has taken control over everything and you have no worries – no decisions to make, that too is almost a kind of subspace? The feeling of peace and calm is indescribable to me.
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I can certainly understand that feeling of bliss, but our relationship does not mean I have no responsibility. I actually have a lot of responsibility and make many decisions. For us it does mean that I am not alone and I do have His assistance if and when I need it, I am no longer doing it alone. Not carrying the load on my own is my bliss. 🙂
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nooooo – i finally have a day off and am settled with a lovely warm latte .. and it’s password protected
what is a girl to do …
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Hi there. Just wondering how you do the password protected posts? Thank you fir your time!
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When you are creating a new post look to the right for ‘status’, it should give you a drop down menu with ‘private’ or ‘password protected’ as options. 😀 Be sure to save before posting to make sure it is set as password. Good Luck! Try it with a regular post first, then you’ll know you have it before putting your info out there … 😉
You can switch them back and forth also.
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Loving your posts. Still a real noob, but so happy to read and feel less “odd” in a new world. Thank you 😊
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You’re most welcome!! 😀 There is a certain progression I think in the posts from where we started, the things that were on my radar then and the things that happen now, 800 posts so far … that should keep you busy! LoL
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Hello D, I was wondering how do I get the password to view your posts ?
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Hello back! 😀 There are only a handful of posts that are password protected and those were for Bear’s eyes only. You should be able to get to the rest of the blog though, let me know if you are having trouble with the rest! *smiles*
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