D/s has turned me into a ‘girl’!

No I don't mean little, or baby girl or anything like that, I mean I act on and think with my emotions when I am with Him. I act like 'a girl", female, based on emotion! I've always taken my heart into account before acting but I have never been ruled by my heart. I have…

New way?

Feeling a bit sore, again .... no surprise there! Lots of things changing recently and the body needs some time to adjust and re-cooperate. I missed out on the 'centering' and kneeling time I was thinking would happen last night. I assume the Bear decided the timing was bad and physically I was in no…

Perhaps I should clarify …

The idea I have that BDSM should not be a cover up for other mental and emotional issues/compulsions does not mean relationships and relationship types. It is not intended to be understood as a community, or support network situation. I'm talking about actual, physical actions like impact play or cutting etc. These activities release chemicals…

Sensible Sunday Thoughts

** Warning, more against the grain attitude .... *** Life is so much more than appearances. If you are stuck in a 'world' where it's all about what it looks like, how exactly it's said and what's your next line you are living more of a show than a life. You are missing the point…

BDSM is not a coping mechanism

I've read this in the past and just recently come across this idea again and I really have a hard time not chiming in so ... here I go again. I really honestly think that using BDSM as the only way to deal with your other mental and emotional issues, or any sort of M/s,…

frowned-upon kinky

*giggle* I had to post this, apparently that is one of the ways you can find my blog site! LOL I don't write about my sex life, certainly not in any detail, the pics I use are very mild and the language is not offensive in the least, I don't think. The occasional word might…

Aftercare – not just for scening

One of the things I found in the beginning especially was that aftercare was not just necessary after a scene or intense play session.  Sometimes, most times? after care has much more to do with one's mental and emotional state than it does the physical. What I found interesting was that the things that played…

Evil Evil Bear strikes again ….

.... and again, and again, and again ..... 😛 I shared this really *good* pic I found with the Bear, He said He thought it was funny! But, well, ummm, ..... I normally post something humorous on Monday about sitting gingerly on my chair but I think today I just won't even bother to try…