More reality, …. it’s not really about the sex and BDSM

…. although it is pretty fantastic!! *grin*

Today is yet another example of how ‘D/s’ has influenced my life. There is a classic car show that we have been going to every year for a few years now. I did a write-up about it, it was a good solid dynamic building experience for both of us, you can read it here!

Today is the day, and we didn’t go, and it was my ‘fault’! I know the Bear would never blame me and it won’t ever be mentioned again but I’m nobody’s fool, I know what went down! *giggle*

I know He wanted to go, I had already picked out the dress I was going to wear and sensible by appropriate shoes to go along. He likes to see how many eyes turn away from the cars when I walk by! LoL Silly old Bear ….

Today however the day is not very pleasant, it’s hot and humid and hazy. This does not help my body at all right now, or my allergies. I have already taken something for the pain (which I don’t normally) and something for my allergies and I’m still not functioning very well. My joints hurt, I have a splitting headache that comes and goes and I’m limping off and on.

I don’t hide from Him anymore, no matter what the agenda holds. I also don’t argue or feel guilty about whatever happens or whatever He decides. He is a big boy and He can make His own decisions. I am not His Momma or His keeper …. *exhales* what a relief! To be married to an adult, and know it! *chuckle*

I think many of us make ourselves responsible and worried about things when we really have no need to be. This dynamic means that He’s the Boss and He has final say. It also means that I am to be truthful and honest, always. Isn’t that funny? I think so, it takes a dynamic to makes us realize that we should treat our husbands like adults! *chuckle* Anyway ….

So today without much discussion, He decided we would stay home, the cars are always the same and over the years we really have seen them all.

Today He decided to play with me off and on, which helps my pain levels and of course keeps us connected, and to just relax.

I could feel bad or feel guilty because He missed it. I could have pushed to go, trying to manipulate the situation thinking I knew best. I could have hid my situation and paid for it later, making Him upset and likely feel guilty because of the outcome. I didn’t.

I let Him see what was going on and let Him decide what to do about it, that’s the point of it all after all, isn’t it? So I’m sitting here icing my knee, I feel better, we got some play time and He feels like He has taken care of me …

I’m guessing THAT feeling is worth more to Him than missing a car show that we have seen many times before. And I don’t feel guilty at all, I feel proud of myself for letting Him lead… *wink*

Thoughts anyone?