Part of the rush the Bear gets from being my dominant and not just my husband is that He knows I won’t bow down to anyone. *chuckle*
The idea of trying ‘D/s’ on for size was mine, mostly because I was so intimidating that even He backed away from me. In effect I was emasculating my husband and in return left to carry on in this world alone. Alone in the sense of all the responsibilities that life throws our way.
I’ve written on this before so I won’t go into too much detail this time but I’m very certain that the first time I knelt for Him He was very uncomfortable. This is not a natural state for me and I don’t imagine He would have ever dreamt of seeing it.
As time went on He became more and more comfortable with the idea and started to take on more and more responsibility. The one thing that He is very well aware of however is just how much He is really taking on. He knows me well, He knows how much I can take on and carry on my own, which means He knows how much that will weigh on Him if and when I need to ‘put it down’ for a while to rest and recuperate.
I haven’t changed, I still run around in the world kicking @ss. I think at some point in our journey that started to make Him uncomfortable when I walked through the door. Now a days however, now a days He stands just as tall and strong as I, He laughs when He seems me out there intimidating the h3ll out of the bad guys and He gets an even bigger rush at the thought of me kneeling for Him!
I have recently started following someone who experienced things very differently. The thought of a strong, independent and kick @ss woman as a submissive was made to sound wrong, or ‘less than’ in the circle she found herself in.
It’s a bit of an eye opener for me but good information to have. It makes my work here and the work of all the rest of you strong and capable people all that much more important in the ‘community’. I don’t claim to be part of any group and honestly fitting in has never been my strong suit, but I am ‘His submissive’, and I’m no ‘less’ than anyone else.
Maybe the ones who have a problem with this are simply just not prepared to take on the responsibilities for someone like ‘us’! *wink*