D/s and Nietzsche pt. 2 – My Dominant

Since i mused from my ‘side’ of the slash on how things seem to match up with the progression of self, i thought i’d do the same for what i see happening/ed in the bear!

When i met the Bear i knew right away that He was someone i could count on, but He was young as was i and we both still had much growing and maturing to do. He was very much in the camel stage of life, doing and working and not really one to turn others away, at any cost.

I was probably already starting to turn to the lion but children came along and then ‘mom’ took over, everything else really does fade into the background, doesn’t it? It’s a very good time to have a camel by your side, to help carry the load, … and help He did! *smiles*

As time went on and children grew my lion stage came into full force, picking up from where it had left off in my teens years, always fighting the good fight! This is where eventually the Bear got lost i would say, where He started to fade into the background and one reason why D/s was very good for us.

Through the conversations, tears and screams of making this dynamic work, Bear has become much more the lion. Not just at home but in life. The confidence and strength it takes for a person to stand on their own and do what’s right has grown inside and it shows through very clearly these days. At home, at work, with friends and relatives. I think all can see it now.

As i mentioned in the previous post, this has allowed me to grow into the child stage. (Sounds funny doesn’t it? Grow into a child? *giggle*)

For the record, the ‘child’ that i call Bear, the part that compliments the bunny, peeks through on a very regular basis! *wink*  Makes sense i suppose, since the rabbit never seems to run out of energy! *raspberries*

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(That’s the Energizer bunny, in case you’ve been under a rock! not my creation )

Of Nietzsche, BDSM and lil’Rabbits!

I’ve been reading Friedrich Nietzsche and life is affording me some time to explore and play with my kinky side and so i’ve been musing.

Early into “Thus Spoke Zarathustra”, Nietzsche has his character go into a monologue about the different incarnations of self … more or less. This concept hasn’t left me since reading about the camel, the lion and the child. So many of the visuals used are the very same as the ones i have used throughout my life, and stages too! Reading it has been like ‘coming home’ in a sense, … but onward! *chuckle*

I’m not going into great detail from the book, i know you can all read it for yourselves if you chose, no need for me to ramble on. I am going to muse on how i see it being so in line with my experience of life so far.  😀 And, how it ties into my D/s relationship.

The camel being the first stage, the stage where you carry the load of life, do what’s expected and carry on without much thought or worry of self. You take on the challenges around you and deal with whatever crap gets thrown your way, in my case anyway!

Next stage is the lion, the stage of strength and determination. Where you fight the good fight, find your truth and inner strength and learn how to stand on your own two feet, say ‘NO’ when it’s appropriate, fight your dragon! *smirk* yup, he said that! (Some of you might find this as amusing as i do if you’ve followed a while!)

The next and final stage, the child. The child is important and more powerful than the other two but can not come to be without the others first. The child can make everything fresh and new, “is innocence and forgetting, a new beginning, a game, a self-propelled wheel, a first movement, a sacred ‘Yes’.” The thought finishes with, “the spirit now wills his own will, and he who had been lost to the world now conquers his own world.”

This is all very simple paraphrasing and the story goes on much further and deeper.

What i know is the it matches nicely with the stages of life i have been through and the ‘child’ fits well into what D/s has helped me accomplish. Now i’ve said before that i am not ‘little’, i don’t have a regression or age i like to slip into. I do however have my lil’Rabbit, my bunny.

When all is right with my world i easily find myself in an innocent feeling space. It’s an energy that comes naturally and feels fresh and new and allows for new experiences and new memories to be made. Forgiveness perhaps, acceptance definitely and a weightless way of being, of living without fear, shame or worry.

Now just because ‘bunny’ (Nietzsche’s child) is innocent and ‘light’ doesn’t mean it’s not powerful, because you see it has carried the weight of the camel and faught the fight of the lion. It knows it’s own worth and capabilities and has grown beyond even that, to be strong enough to let it all go and ‘live’.

This part of life i don’t know if i would have been able to achieve without first having the safety of knowing that if i let it all go i was doing it in the safety of having Him watch over me. It came to be from the security of His dominance.

So yeah, just musing on a Monday!