I have a question, related to something I read not too long ago. I thinkย it might have been referring to me, maybe not. Either way it did get me thinking.

Do you all enjoy when I share funny little bits and pieces of things that have happened here? Things that are not really deep or meaningful in any way. Things that are simply meant to give a smile or show that regardless of how you choose to live and label your life, its the small fun times in between that really makes us happy in the long run.

I prefer to be happy, I prefer to smile and sometimes things happen that I don’t mind sharing in the hopes of sharing that smile too.

Is it just frivolous? Would you prefer not to have that pop up in your readers, or does it do as I hoped and simply share a smile in a world that could use more of them??


Don’t worry, I’m not going to change …. I just would like some feedback. ๐Ÿ™‚


I don’t think the key to this is to find that perfect match or waiting for your partner to become that perfect match.

I think the key is to find that person who will never stop trying, for you, because of you. From both sides ….

The first one doesn’t exist anyway.

My favourite time of day ….

I think some of the most telling things about a relationship might not be the things that people would normally think of. Since I’ve been on about communication lately my brain just took it a bit further.

One of my most favourite part of the day(s) is when Sir comes in excited to tell me about something He heard, or something He saw or found funny. His enthusiasm is obvious and energy is high and all He wants to do is share it, with me … *smiles*

‘Date nights’ are planned and nice but you are ‘thinking’ and hopefully on your best behaviour. Sex is well, sex …. I would say most people enjoy that.

Kisses – hello, good-bye, good night are sweet and a great indication of affection but they can become automatic, like driving, you just do it. (Maybe my personality profile showing a bit here.)

Sharing your excitement, your thoughts and ideas and your good mood, now that is something you do with someone you WANT to be with. Someone that means a lot to you, someone you really want to spend your time with. THAT you do with your best friend ….

So when that enthusiastic happy Bear comes bounding into the room just to tell me what He found …. That’s when I know He doesn’t just ‘love’ me, He LIKES me too! *wink*

Happy Hump Day!


I can always tell when my mind is in a good, steady place. I don’t mean ‘happy’ or excited, or with new and dramatic things going on. I don’t mean happy-go-lucky which can change in a heart beat depending on who you are and how you work, I mean content …. at peace, calm and steady no matter what is happening around me.

I’m a planner, I like to know where I am headed and how I plan to get there. Whether it’s my choice or someone else’s doesn’t really matter, if I have confidence in and can respect the other person than I am still in a steady and content place.

How do I know? Well it’s simple really, and kind of a let down if you are expecting a great revelation … I know when I am at peace because I do what I love to do, I cook. I cook, and I plan meals, and I pair wine, and I make meal plans that go on for weeks ….. we have so much prepared food in the house that even with the Bear taking home-made for lunch every day we still end up with no room in the refrigerator.

This would be when the Bear needs to get all Domly on my backside and say ‘no more cooking, today we do leftovers, we need to make room …’ LoL

What about you guys? Do you have a simple ‘tell tail’ (giggle, anyone??) that says you are content??

Yes life is still crazy, but it’s also short and not to be taken for granted or too seriously. *wink*

Happy Monday

I haven’t much to write about, not really anything interesting or that needs to get out.

I’ve spent much too much time at the funeral home as of late, made another stop yet again yesterday.

Christmas is a week away and we’re keeping it simple, no stress.

Rain is here now, all the snow we have will likely disappear in the next few days. It’s kind of dark and pretty dreary.

All in all I’m still in good spirits, life is still fun and I’m getting feeling back in my hands … for now!

Looking forward to some time off with the Bear …… and this song keeps hopping through my head! Happy Monday Everyone! ๐Ÿ˜€

You might think ….

If you read my blog you might think that Sir and I are pretty evenly matched. You might think we have a lot of similarities and you might think that’s why we get along so well with no real issues to have to work through. You might think our personalities must be very similar and hence we get along quite easily.ย The truth is we are pretty much exact opposites when it comes to personality and the way we do things.

I can’t even begin to count how many times it has been pointed out to me that we are so different that people have a hard time figuring out how we get along so well, why we are together. Mind you this usually comes from other men, I have never had a shortage of attention in that respect! Women on the other hand seem to think I’m so lucky and how do I get Him to do all these things!?! Just in case your mind goes there, this was all before kink … I can’t imagine letting anyone have that much control and physical power over me if I didn’t completely trust and respect them first.

Have you ever heard the saying that opposites attract? Well in this case that’s exactly what happened. We are both strong and powerful in our own ways and once we got together the force was just as strong as we are, and good luck taking that apart!

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The secret is staying lined up properly, balanced in this case. How do we do that? Well we talk, we listen, we respect and we value each other. When we use these tools we help each other to learn in grow, we become even stronger still.

I might be one strong bunny but there are many things I have learned from listening and watching my husband over the years. When I stop long enough to wait and listen I grow as a person and all the things that my personality might be missing get filled in by His, and vice versa! Appreciating each others differences instead of pointing them out and complaining has brought us to where we are today. And communicating of course, nothing can be learned if no one is talking. For all the strengths and abilities we each have, neither of us is a mind reader.

I’d like to think I have helped Him to learn and grow in some areas and I know He has helped me do the same. By relying on our strengths and realizing and working on our weaknesses we have become strong and we now move almost as one. And that is why we get along so well and that is why we are happy together! We worked at it …. we never gave up and we never looked elsewhere.


Yes we are exact opposites, that’s why we fit together so nicely!

One more day til your holidays Sir!! Can’t wait ๐Ÿ˜€ Two more days til mine ….

Love You Always Sir โค

Not sure why …

I’m not sure if it’s the time of year, things I’ve read or things I’ve been working out and going through, but lately I find myself going down memory lane and making a memory scrap-book of our lives together.

These are times that someone else has made it obvious to me that we are not like other people. Someone else has noticed enough to point it out in some way …. This next story is appropriate for the time of year because it was Christmas Eve, at your mom and dad’s as always! ๐Ÿ˜€

I think it was the first time I really realized that most people (at least around here) don’t do things the way I do, the way we do … You’ve always told me I was different, maybe I have made you different as well? Who knows …

Anyway, scrap-book memory story – Christmas Eve at grandma’s house, talking and socializing, my oldest niece has a ‘game’ she wants to play on/with all the adults. It’s one of those pick a number, pick a name, who’s your best friend, what’s your favourite etc …..

She went through all the other couples in the house and eventually it was our turn/my turn. We went through the questions, one by one until she reached the question “Who is your best friend?”

I said you … she looked confused then replied ‘no, not your husband or who you’re married to, but your BEST friend’. Again I said you … lol She wasn’t very old maybe 10 or 11 so I tried to explain the best way I could that you are and always have been my best friend. That I married my best friend and you are the person I want to hang out with most and talk to.

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It occurred to me then that she had asked everyone else in the house the same questions and probably a lot of other couples before since her parents are very social, and no one else had given that answer.

I couldn’t imagine giving any other answer …. you are my best friend, my first thought in the morning, first person I want to see and first person I want to share with. You’re my first call when I need and my lover, my husband and now my Master. (I won’t tell her the last one if she asks again this year!)

Other people think it’s strange that we do what we do, I think it’s strange when others don’t. Why would I marry anyone besides my best friend? I guess you were right all along, I guess I am different Sir!

Love You Always Sir โค



Time for a refresher – for myself.

It’s funny when I read other blogs I can see very clearly and when I get to my own, things start to get too complicated.

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I remember having this issue as a kid in school and now my kids have the same issue (or did when they were little) and I can explain it to them and see it very clearly and quickly, but for some reason you turn the table and put it in my head and I lose track!

Let’s see if I can bring this back full circle …. I have always found things very easy to accomplish, so easy in fact that most times I convince myself it must be wrong or I must be missing something. Everyone else seems to be having a much more difficult time so I must be missing something, right??

As someone pointed out previously, we don’t all wear skirts or use urinals, that would be strange indeed!

Maybe I find this easy because I’m happy, because I’m content and because it’s a good fit for us. The only One who needs to think me submissive is my Sir and the only One I submit to is Him anyway, so if He is happy and fulfilled than I should be too!

I don’t miss much, I serve Him well, I’ve been practicing for some 22 years.

I remember a story from about 10 years back already, we had my brother and his girlfriend over for dinner. Sir always helps me in the kitchen and this evening was no different. There we are working away moving from side to side, reaching and grabbing things as we need them to accomplish a common goal.

My brother there also, standing back as to not get in the way, it was a very small galley style kitchen. All of a sudden he (brother) was very quiet and just watching. I turn to look and he says to me “Holy crap, you guys are like a well oiled machine. You’d think something was going to crash and hit but your motions are such that they almost seem choreographed!”

He proceeded to tell me how impressive it was and he could only hope to one day be so in tune with someone else that they could accomplish even half that much! He was quite amazed that we had no words, no stumbles we just simply moved around each other and with each other in what seemed like one fluid motion.

We’ve had 10 more years to practice since then, why would I expect it to be difficult now?

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I’m setting my brain back to basics, I’m keeping it simple and I’m going with my instincts! So what If I find serving you easy, it doesn’t mean I’m missing something it just means I’m good at it. K.I.S.S!

Love You Always Sir โค