With time and experience comes understanding I would say. I think I now understand the ebb and flow of it all, for us.

I’ve heard the terms over and over again of course, it’s a common theme if you search those who have been in the lifestyle and together for a long time, like we have. I’ve heard it but I don’t think I quite understood it in regards to our own relationship. I think I do now!

It’s not a failure, it’s not something to be worried over or stress about. It’s just a natural circumstance when you have a ‘real’ life and challenges out there to contend with as well as your BDSM dynamic.

That’s not to say it’s to be ignored, no I’m just suggesting that instead of internalizing it as a failure somehow, I choose to look at it as a pit stop, to take inventory of what I have in my submissive bank and what I need. Then to take steps to fill missing parts through diligence and intention. And most importantly – communication!

Things are looking good here for us, the kids seem to be on track and so are we. How are you all? I’m investing some time each week to post, it helps me to keep in the mindset I need to stay focused on my submission. What do you do to stay in the groove??

Happy Saturday, stay kinky! LoL

6 thoughts on “Understanding

  1. Communication is the bedrock on which we build everything else. Understanding isn’t the easiest of concepts to crack. We all ‘think’ that ‘we got it’ because of ‘reasons’ but we don’t always grasp it perfectly. There’s time for us all to sometimes sit down, examine the belly button lint, and finally ‘get’ what was there all along for us to comprehend. There’s no failing in taking a bit of time in getting there. Heh. Psychobabble much?

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      1. Heh. I’m actually in the midst of an entry that touches on the whole distance situation I’m currently embroiled in. So be on the lookout. Other than that, we’re doing ok here. Glad to hear from you as well.

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  2. Glad to see you are writing again! I’ve wondered how you all were doing. HD and I are finding that even though we communicate well and are honest and open with each other, there’s always room for improvement!
    As far as ‘staying in the groove’ I have no idea. If you find out, let me know! Things get so hectic and stressful that we spend most of our “available” time being lazy and decompressing. Video games, playing with/cuddling the animals, and scrolling through news or social media. *shrug* Maybe post-pandemic things will improve.

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    1. I’m starting to wonder if there will ever be a post-pandemic! UGH
      I know what you mean about hectic! Life has settled here and we were (are I hope) in a really good groove and just yesterday morning our dog of 9 years passed away in my arms. I have a feeling we have just slowed down again …. kink doesn’t really seem ‘right’ atm. Pretty sure Bear’s head isn’t in it either right now.
      I know it may sound silly but I’m mentally torn between continuing with what we need and honouring her memory! I know that both can co-exist but it just doesn’t feel like it right now.
      I may have to write about that too, it always seems to make things ‘right’ for me when I jot them down. *smiles*

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      1. Aw I am so sorry! Losing a pet is so hard. Sometimes a break or slow down to honor someone important is perfectly natural. Grief is not conducive to kink, even though it’s such an integral part of your lives. *hugs*

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