Not invested, I suppose.

It’s been some time since I’ve really had the need or want to blog here. Bear stopped reading a couple years back and with no real interaction with my readers, well I got bored.

There is plenty of traffic on the site but just no comments which leaves me feeling rather talked out! I started this site back in 2015 and I have covered pretty much all there is that I am willing to share. Pretty much …. *smiles*

I could go back and reread my posts, add things that I have changed in or matured about but I just don’t have the inspiration to do so. Well, not till now anyway. I’ve started speaking to someone who is reading old blog posts of mine, yikes! LoL It’s got me thinking ‘what in the world did I write back then? I sure hope he’s not reading a rant!” *chuckle* Hopefully if there is something a bit off the wall he will ask.

Like I mentioned, Bear stopped reading the posts some time ago. It’s not because he’s not invested in the dynamic it’s just because that’s not the way he learns or shares information! Writing/reading is MY thing not his. Part of succeeding in this dynamic is learning and accepting the methods of the other person and working together for a common goal.

I still write to set things straight in my head and then I find a good time to approach him to talk. He doesn’t put me off, he sits and makes the time to listen. I try to remember to do just a few thoughts at a time because that’s what he prefers but I admit it can be difficult! lol He likes to sit and digest the information before moving forward … there is nothing wrong with that, it’s very much one of the best ways to approach things. I just happen to run a bit faster up in here! *chuckle* One of the reasons why I need BDSM to relax this head of mine.

I’m not entirely sure where I was going with this post, a bit of a ramble I guess. I’ve given up on labels and such. If you’ve followed for a while you already know I try not to use them any but if I had to I’d say we are very much into an M/s type relationship these days.

I think it’s where we were always heading it just took time to get comfortable in our roles. That’s a lot of responsibility and patience on both parts to get here, or so that is my opinion. Rushing things a few times over the years just became overwhelming to both of us so we learned to slow down. Now it just happens.

So, how are you all doing?

~n

7 thoughts on “Not invested, I suppose.

  1. I love that Bear sits, listens and digests. And that he is always there for you. I was thinking this morning that I hadn’t seen any of your posts in my inbox.

    All good here, my brain took a little time off over the last couple of weeks but it seems to be firing on all cylinders again now.

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    1. Time off is important! Selfcare and all that, I’m sure you know the drill by now. lol I’m glad to hear you’re back and ready to take on your world again. šŸ™‚

      Bear starts holidays this Friday, it may be a little while before I have any time to write again, or so I hope!! *wink*

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  2. > Rushing things a few times over the years just became overwhelming to both of us so we learned to slow down. Now it just happens.

    This seems like a really nice thing to observe. Thank you.

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  3. As long as Bear is receptive and both of you are able to get the information through to each other, that’s all that matters. Means and method are secondary. šŸ™‚

    I still write, despite far less interaction on my blog, for the opposite reason: HD reads everything, and it’s so much easier for me to express myself this way than to speak directly. (I am improving, but it seems like writing allows me to tap into emotions and express experiences in a deeper way than talking does.)

    Going through a lot but feeling okay overall. Starting IVF in October if the saline sonogram doesn’t show another uterine polyp (I’ll be having surgery if is does, and pushing IVF to who-knows-when). Currently out of commission with some sort of infection, likely in the ear, causing my lymph node to swell. That’s been fun. šŸ™„ Getting some landscaping work done, which has been great overall (and such a huge improvement!) but with some drama between the landscaper and her subcontracted help. (Short version: his wife decided the landscaper was flirting with him when she was texting about the project, he was refused/was slow to pay her out of the deposit check he was given (and he’s the subcontracted labor!), the landscaper was threatened with assault by his wife when she knocked on the door to find out where her money was, so they decided to do their work separately…and then he tried to get the rest of the money and cut her out completely. He’s done his part and is no longer involved, fortunately.) Also my bladder feels/seems to function better, so the exercises and water drinking and breathing techniques are working! šŸ˜€

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    1. Oh goodness!! That is a lot to have to deal with all at once! I’m just getting back here myself, had a week off with the Bear and now he’s back to work.

      I’m glad the bladder issues are getting better, after some time and a bit of ‘training’ to hold it just a bit at a time I can now go all night without having to get up to pee! lol I drink a lot of water daily and try to never hold it during the day but I did start waiting it out at night and little by little I was able to last longer and longer.

      I’ve got to get caught up on your posts again! Hope things have turned out okay but I guess I’ll find out soon! šŸ™‚

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