Kink or self-harm?

A personal reflection.

I think it’s important to be honest with oneself when practicing certain kinky activities. I have just had to reflect on this topic and I admit that when you are in the midst of subspace it can be hard to tell the difference or perhaps more accurately, admit the difference.

Our kinky life has been taken up a notch, or okay many notches as of late and it has been a wonderful enhancement to our every day life. It has also allowed me to fall deeper into an almost constant subspace. Unfortunately, one of these kinky activities had started to cause some major physical discomfort.

As a masochist the idea of ‘suffering’ for my Dom is a huge appeal however there is a time when the suffering goes from kinky to unsafe or harmful to self.

I’ll spare you the details of the actual kinky activity but as much as my submissive self wanted to continue and please and well, suffer (in a consensual and masochistic way), my adult and responsible self knew it was time to take a break!

In my view kink should not cause real damage to your mind or body. Having also been one to use self harm in the past to deal with my issues I can assure you that there is a very real difference!

So I used my safewords. It’s a very real way for Bear to know the difference between being in the moment, and being in peril. The activity is for now at a full stop, as much as my submissive self might want to continue my reason tells me I should not.

Bear would never allow me to anyway, not now that He knows ….. There will be assessment and evaluation I’m sure and if we do continue in any capacity with this kink it will be well monitored by Him. πŸ™‚

Kink is a fun and healthy expression of self.

Harming oneself is not. Be mindful out there friends.

6 thoughts on “Kink or self-harm?

    1. Yes, I think submissives will often be conflicted between being ‘a good sub’ and being safe. I say that a good submissive *is* someone who takes safety seriously, as should a dominant. πŸ™‚

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      1. LoL That’s it exactly! Having a good circle of like-minded friends helps with that I think. I do miss having that in my life. But …. that’s another post entirely! πŸ˜‰

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      2. That’s kind, thank you but I’m doing fine. It’s just that there was a time I had a good number of chat friends but life goes on as they say! *smiles*

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