Jerks are everywhere – even in BDSM.

You know what’s really sad, insulting and even a bit laughable? When you post your truth, when you try to show the world what your BDSM and D/s looks like, to be honest, real …. and then someone tries to use that moment in time and turn it into an opportunity to try to steal your partner away.

I’m not interested in being a site that only speaks about the fun, kinky and full on power exchange moments. I’m in a live in, married, 24/7 relationship with the man I fell in love with a quarter century ago. We share 2 children, 2 dogs, two cars and a nice Georgian style home with a very large, beautiful but very work laden back yard.

There are many more facets to our lives than just BDSM and D/s.

I like to include some of that in my blog because it gives a fuller picture of what real life looks like, not the porn videos or fiction story books. Whatever you read however is just a snippet – a moment in time. It’s not always indicative of that week or even that day.

In fact, I use writing as a way to work through whatever stress is on my mind and it very often has left me by the end of the post. I imagine it works this way for many of us who chose to write.

None of us need your rudeness in stepping in and trying to overtake what we have worked so hard to build.

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This is not a normal issue for me here, I keep things tame enough to keep most interest at bay I suppose. But there is always someone, humm? Consider this your scolding, if you want a DOM/ME so bad believe me I can turn on a dime. I might not be an alfa, but I could be.

MANNERS!

You want to be considered by someone, anyone who lives with integrity and in the lifestyle, than work on your damn manners. Bad form I say, and even if someone here was looking to expand our circle, which we are not, we would only consider those who have proper manners and know their place.

I might be His rabbit but I am always a Warrior. I may not be a sadist but I can certainly have you doing ‘jumping jacks if you over step again.

10 thoughts on “Jerks are everywhere – even in BDSM.

  1. There is a writer on Fet who comes across my feed every now and then, and he is such a colossal jerk. He has this idea that BDSM is being ruined by anyone who doesn’t follow his own edicts on what BDSM is supposed to be, and he thinks that including what the submissive wants/enjoys is against the ‘rules’. I just roll my eyes and snort when I see someone commenting/loving his writings.

    On top of people like him who think they know the Real Way to Kink, there are an abundance of trolls, and even more than a few misogynists who think women are submissive and men are Dominant and that’s the way it should be. (Cue even harder eye roll.) Jerks have invaded BDSM just as thoroughly as they have all other spaces, unfortunately.

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    1. I’ve been reading ‘the light keeper’, he talks a lot about those types and has some pretty funny twist of letters/names for them! LoL Good for a hearty laugh and some good info! Not sure if you have found him yet, but’s he’s enjoyable! ๐Ÿ™‚

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  2. I’ve only just discovered your blog but I couldn’t agree more. I used to know a Dominant who would tell my husband how to punish me, not suggest, tell. Needless to say, we used to talk about him on the way home. I’ve also met a “super-Dom” in my time. Oh, how I wish I was making that one up!

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    1. Super-dom, now that’s a new one! lol
      Welcome to the site, Helen ๐Ÿ™‚ I’ve stayed away from all the ‘all knowing’ lifestylers for a long while now, so it is irritating when they try to weasel their way into my life. I guess they just have nothing better to do with theirs! *shrug*

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      1. Thankyou ๐Ÿ™‚ the ones that really get me are the “experts”, especially when these so-called experts are younger than I am! I’ve been called an expert a few times and I always say “educator maybe, but certainly not an expert”. I could teach quite a few things on sensation play, chastity though? I wouldn’t have a clue! Therefore, I can’t possibly be an expert if I don’t know everything ๐Ÿ˜‰

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      1. Exactlu, but no, you’re supposed to treat them as though they are. I was told once that I was very badly behaved and I just replied with “oh I know, the very worst”. He didn’t have much to say after that, mind you!

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      2. Very much so. I don’t have the time or the patience for dealing with people like that. Real Dominants know how to treat people, regardless of their role. In part, I think that’s what makes them so respectable.

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