I had started this conversation but i stumbled upon this:
Reality Check
His website, although i’m not certain it’s still active:
Consensual Dominance
Theory and Practical Advice for Doing it Well
It explains well the contradictions we find ourselves in when we ‘play’ the way we do and why it’s no less real than any other aspect of our lives. Why we can be queen of His world one day, and a piece of property on another, and both be very much real.
I hope you read the essay if you have had this question, it really is well written. 🙂 He explains why it requires a deep understanding of self, and honesty ….
Enjoy! ❤
nijntje & The Bear 