** This is my opinion of course, my view on what the difference is. **
To me, the thing that makes it D/s and not ‘vanilla’ is that there are no games! Or at least, there are no games that have not been agreed on and consented to.
I believe that D/s is much less about kink and more about the honesty and openness that the partners share.
You can be kinky and not be D/s ……
Happy Friday ❤