Bear and i have been doing really well incorporating D/s into the everyday i think. Things are feeling pretty good and even though we are not kinking it up 24/7 we are feeling pretty good about our ‘places’. At least i think you are, right Bear??
Any loud impact play is still off the table unfortunately but hopefully soon!!
Bear has been relying on more mental domination and physical restraint, not with all the bells and whistles of bondage but obvious none the less. When you only have 30 or 40 minutes taking the time to ‘setup’ would mean we were done before we started!
True to form, when i’m ‘happy’ i worry and think less and less and simply act and react more and more. I don’t wait and fret, i simply do what feels natural and let Him take care of the rest. That’s just as it should be anyway, isn’t it?
The shouldda, couldda, wouldda is out of our minds and we just go with the flow as they say. I tap into my subspace and He taps into His domspace. It doesn’t matter who starts it at any given time, i don’t think it’s even a thing right now, who started …. we just ‘do’.
We’ve done all the hard work, we have talked and explored and learned. We have discussed, consented and agreed. The fantasy of ‘how it should be’ and how it should feel and be done is gone and you know what???
We are closer now to living the fantasy than we have ever been. We simply had to put it all out of our minds. LoL
TGIF ❤
nijntje & The Bear 
Yay!
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That is awesome. And yes that is how it should be.
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🙂 thank you!
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When you reached the point of no longer thinking too much you reached the perfect place. Now, you are reacting naturally and most likely reacting perfectly. And you are both happy. Nothing better than that.
Wishing you both a wonderful weekend.
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Thank you my friend! As someone who’s natural state is squarely inside my mind, *not* thinking too much is almost unheard of! It is nice to have that mental break-time, i won’t deny it, even for someone like me!
It’s the long weekend in these parts, we’re looking forward to it! 🙂 Thank you and you as well!
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Enjoy your long weekend. 🙂
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I’m so glad it’s so fluid for you both now, I’m not sure we’re there…yet! Must catch up with you xx
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Thank you Kis! We stopped dwelling on the roadblocks and started just ‘being’. So far it’s working well. 🙂
I’ve messaged a few times, not sure if you still have it active, i know there has been a lot going on recently. I hope to hear more good news from you soon!!
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I’m really glad, a good thing to bear in mind. I’ll go check as not been on much, so I’ve maybe missed it, I’m sorry. Im off for mid break now so would be lovely to catch up x
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A break is always a nice turn! 🙂 I’ve got a long weekend and not too much afoot! lol Despite the time difference, maybe we can catch up! That would be lovely!
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Who would have thought that putting it out of our minds was the way to go. I guess it has become natural enough that it has become “us”. This feels the way it should feel…great.☺ Love you nijntje 🐻
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Love you too, Sir! ❤
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This sounds wonderful, how lucky you are that you are able to
Live like this full time. No wonder you’re both happy. I was always happiest when my Dom was being dominant w ought for me to be able to stay in subspace, I felt wanted, secure, valued, loved and treasured. I am
Really pleased for you xx
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Thank you, subminxy. 🙂
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Thank you, i’m glad you enjoyed my scribbles! 🙂
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