“There is a vanity in excess penance …. you must have sustenance. “
I think us over achievers and perfectionists would do well to remember this saying. As submissives and dominants alike, beating ourselves up over things that didn’t quite work only damages what we want to work towards anyway.
Look, listen, learn and then move on. Apologize if it’s appropriate but release yourself from the guilt and get back to a happy balanced state.
For me personally this is where any sort of punishment comes in, it allows me to have closure and move on. It’s not about being beat black and blue like some accounts i have read, it’s not about changing behaviour either because frankly it doesn’t work!
It’s about closure, releasing of guilt and getting back to balance.
Happy Friday! ❤