I read this a few weeks ago and it got me thinking, like usual right!?!? *chuckle* Anyway, it is very much kink inspired and so if you are not here for the nitty gritty of it all please feel free to skip this post!
If you are, perhaps you should take a gander before you read my thoughts so that you know where i’m coming from. 🙂
I’ve been given a reprieve from my debauchery — for the morning at least, as I’ve been granted time to myself and promised a casual time with Amanda at the cafe for brunch. So already this Saturday a.m. I’ve taken a leisurely bath, and I spent good time washing and pampering my hair, which had […]
Shae is in a situation where she is ‘owned’. Now, i could use the same words as she does, owned, used etc. but to me it simply doesn’t have the same feel of humiliation as it seems to elicit in her. I have a theory ….
My submission and my ‘use’ is all done within a loving and completely committed relationship. Mine is done within a marriage that not only encompasses sex and ‘slavery’ but also includes the commitments of everyday life, home, cars, and children. For a lack of better explanation mine doesn’t seem as linear, mine is more far reaching and perhaps more fulfilling? Not a judgement, just a ponder …
When i am ‘of use’ to my dominant i feel the subspace and the high but what i don’t feel is that i’m ‘only‘ a vessel for His pleasure. To me the experience, no matter how primal or single minded, is always reciprocal. He doesn’t just do it to me, He does it ‘for me’ …. and i know i have many more ‘uses’ than just that one in this life we share.
Is that perhaps why our view and feeling on the matter is different? Is it because i’m inside a marriage that has commitments and carries on with or without the dynamic that i don’t feel humiliated by the fun we have?
Or is it just a ‘me’ thing?? A rabbit thing? *chuckle*
nijntje & The Bear 
I never thought about it but what you said definitely rang true in my head. The reason I don’t feel humiliated is because our activities come wrapped in the commitment we have within our marriage. Humbled – always. Humiliated – never.
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Yeah, it never occurred to me either until i started reading Shae. I always knew there was a difference i just couldn’t quite put my finger on it in a ‘dynamic’ sort of way.
The more i read the more and more clear it became. Glad it’s not just me!! LoL
Thanks, Jennifer!
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Hi, I just found your blog today and I like a lot of what you have to say. I don’t ever want to feel humiliated or ashamed either within our ttwd marriage. Humbled though, yes. And is that sexy? Heck, yes! We’re working on it! Windy
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Hi Windy, thanks for commenting! I’m glad you’re enjoying the read. 🙂 It does take work but it’s well worth the effort, i’m happy to hear it’s working for you too! 🙂
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