Struggling ….

This is not new and it’s not the first time. I’m struggling but probably not how you think!

I’m struggling to write here, on this blog. I started this with lots of ideas and lots to say. I also used to read and listen to many other people out there in the blogosphere …. I don’t put much time towards that any more.

Some of the things I read bothered me, some made me want to speak out. Some triggered thoughts of how and what and why …. Some were just simply for fun.

I used this format as a way to ‘think out loud’ at times.

I don’t get much in terms of comments which is fine but it doesn’t give me any ideas to jump off of, to live to write another day … πŸ˜› LoL

Life with the boys is ‘life’, not a whole lot to comment on that hasn’t already been said.

Life with me and the Bear is great, we always want more time for kink but who doesn’t? *smirk* Our connection is great, our time together always well taken advantage of. We don’t have issues or disconnect, we don’t have questions and we don’t have anything requiring attention.

We spend time together every day ….

We talk together ….

We touch together ….

We play together ….

We work together …..

If something does come up we tackle it together …..

When we can sneak in a moment or two we kink it up together! *grin*

I don’t believe in labels, I couldn’t care less if i ‘fit’. I don’t follow the crowd and I don’t believe anyone who says they have all the answers.

This isn’t just a dynamic, its my life. We are who we are every moment of the day, sometimes the dynamic is more obvious and sometimes less. I’m fine either way ….

If I need more I go to Him, He has never turned me away. If He needs more, I’m at His service, without fail.

I don’t know what else to write about …… but i like to write.

That’s my struggle.

16 thoughts on “Struggling ….

  1. “You have reached the end of the internet. Please hit CNTL+ALT+DEL to continue.” Without a jumping off spot it can be hard to keep going. I know you like to write and it would be a shame if you couldn’t.

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  2. I like reading your blog but I dont get a lot of time to be online so it’s hit an miss sometimes. I write about what is exciting to me and on my mind… usually (as I look back) my orgasms πŸ™‚
    Most of what I write is for me for a record.

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    1. Thanks herwish, i get that! I’ve been doing just that up until now but I’ve run out of new topics. It’s all been written before! LoL I write a lot, and often! πŸ˜‰
      It’s nice to see you back to writing BTW! *smiles*

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      1. Thanks!
        So it seems you may need to try some new kinky sex stuff if your running out of writing topics πŸ˜‰


      2. LoL there is no shortage there, I just don’t write about that. *chuckle* Unless it’s something odd or unusual that happened, my private stuff stays private. Makes me a bit of an oddity amongst ‘lifestyle’ bloggers I suppose!

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  3. As you know I struggle with the same angst. What to write about. I had a blog on LiveJournal that I managed to keep going for the better part of 10 years. But I didn’t write every day. It’s not enough to write about what interests you, you sometimes have to think about your audience. Do they really want to know about the nitty gritty stuff, and do -you- really want to reveal all that much in many aspects. More questions than answers.

    I doubt it’s all been said. Just have to examine the belly button lint a bit more for topics. Every time writer’s block arrives, there’s a way to hit it with a 10 kilo sledge. Just have to find the right combination.

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    1. Yeah, that’s pretty much it. I am not one to write about the kinky specifics and I have no intention of starting that now. The rest is just us being us and being happy. No one really wants to read that over and over! LoL

      I’ve got lots to write about just not lots that needs to be on the ‘D/s’ blog. I just don’t want to come off as one of those couples that suddenly disappeared …. presumably because things fizzled out.


  4. I think you’re doing the right thing; if you feel like writing, write. If you don’t, don’t. You’re totally right, if it’s the same routine for a wee while, you don’t need to say what’s already been said, but perhaps you can find inspiration in the small details. The beauty in things so small, you had taken them for granted.

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    1. Thanks Dalriada, you’re right there are many small things things that make for big smiles. They just don’t need to be on a D/s blog! LoL
      I seem to be getting more readers by the day but the ‘figuring out’ part of my journey here has already happened. I guess if anyone really wants to know they can go back to the beginning! *smiles*
      Anyway, thanks for the encouragement!


      1. Exactly, at the end of the day (while I’m not necessarily suggesting you do this) if you achieved what you set out to there’s no problem with being happy of the content you’ve produced and then leaving it as is for now. You’ve done what you set out to do, so there’s nothing wrong with even changing direction or focus, even subject wise. -Connor

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      2. Thanks, Connor! *smiles* I am starting to concentrate more on different topics, I have another blog for that. And good catch! πŸ˜‰ I do have a goal on this one I have yet to reach …. but I’m close. It’s my INTJ coming out I think! *smirk*
        Have a wonderful day!


  5. I just went through a similar funk. My answer was to just type away post anyway. Even if it is babble, I don’t care. I get my “therapy” from writing, not from who or how many read it. Although views and likes and comments are nice psychological hits, those are just the bonus. For me, 90% of the benefit is just from the writing. 10% from any response…okay, maybe more like 80/20, but still, it’s the writing. At it has become more difficult as I have a much harder time thinking of TTWD as a “dynamic” or as anything other than just “life.” It’s just who we are. Hard to get inspired about that. It feels so normal that frankly, I bore myself a little just talking about it. So yeah, hard to write about it sometimes. But I need the release, as much as I need my submission. Okay, not that much. But anyway, I hope you find the energy and motivation to keep going. I’ve been a long time ready, you were one of my first follows. Good luck!

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    1. Thanks ddjennifer, I know what you mean about writing therapy! I definitely use my writing to clear my head and move forward otherwise things roll around over and over endlessly! My current ‘block’ is trying to find D/s type topics that don’t involve kinky details or sex retell stories, that’s not something I share. I don’t have any issues or problems personally and giving advice is just not something I want to get into. *shrug*
      Do you have topics that you write about that don’t involve sex or kink? I’d be interested to see if anything sparks my ‘lifestyle’ writing! *smiles* Just the last few days/comments have already started some ideas …. maybe i’ll take a peek over there! πŸ™‚
      I have a separate blog for life in general where Sir or submissive or whatever label doesn’t make an appearance.

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      1. For a blog that is ostensibly about a D/s, it’s hard not to keep it about D/s without the kink. Try some of the things that have been suggested and perhaps you’ll hit in something that you find fulfilling to write about. Or just take an extended break and see how you feel after a month or two. My break did me wonders. Good luck with whatever you decide.

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