** My view, my opinion on my life. This is not meant as a commentary on how anyone else should feel or approach their own life. This is just me …. **
When I started searching and joining online groups to explore the ‘lifestyle’ it made me feel like i was faking it. I didn’t want to be fake but i just couldn’t relate to a lot of what i heard and what i read.
I kept hearing about a ‘need’ to be submissive, an inability to be happy without a ‘dom’ etc etc. …. like life was somehow less than without it. That didn’t fit for me, it still doesn’t, not like that. So here we go back to the theory of the dragon! *smiles* (Bear and i had a wonderful, exciting conversation about this last night so i thought to try to explain some of it here.)
I will try to keep it short and sweet! You see the romanticized story that i enjoy goes as follows:
The rider does not pick the dragon, the dragon is the one who has the choice. A dragon egg will lie dormant for years just waiting for the right rider to come along. When He does (i’m going with He because it suits my situation but feel free to change it to suit yours.) the egg begins to awaken. The rider must then choose to take up the responsibility of keeping the egg and eventually the dragon is born. From that moment on the two are linked, a bonded pair.
As the dragon grows stronger the rider grows wiser and more able to fulfill His duties. Eventually the rider begins to realize the full extent of His powers, and His powers over the dragon. You see, the dragon is wise and strong, capable of many things and most certainly not meek about speaking up HOWEVER now that they have bonded the rider has final say, in everything.
What happens to one now happens to the other, they feel each others pain and joy. All of it … Eventually as the rider matures He begins to see the world through the eyes of the dragon. He begins to realize the worth and wisdom of listening and learning from what the dragon can impart. His eyes are open to a whole new way of looking at the world. As their connection grows so too does their strength, together.
The dragon gives the rider power and wisdom, the rider gives the dragon safety and life.
Now to wrap it up, in the end, the dragon is strong and powerful and obviously very capable on its own. The dragon is the one who chooses the rider but now that they are bonded, the dragon can not live without its rider. If the dragon dies the rider can remain but if the rider dies, the dragon dies.
The dragon submits its life entirely into the hands of its rider. The dragon’s main priority is and will always be the well-being of the rider for you see without the rider, there is no dragon. Without a dragon ….. you are no rider. So who’s holding who? It gets hard to tell at times. LoL
So is it a need of mine? No, it’s a choice. A choice i made that lives and dies with one man.
Certainly romanticized but for me it fits. I’m submitting to Him in strength and in turn He listens and hears my council. I’m not weak and i’m not hiding my strength either. I’ve let Him take the reins over me and in turn i get His full devotion.