I’m having a hard time trying to figure out what to write here on this site lately. I like to write and it both calms me at times and offers a distraction from the other things in life when I just want a break. To me writing here is not ‘work’, its relaxing.
The problem is that besides the obvious kink, I am having a hard time differentiating from D/s and just life ….. so
Besides the kinky play time and collars and such, what do you consider the main differences between married, relationship and D/s?
How do you see the differences in life in general? Besides He or She gets final say?
How has your life changed since starting D/s? Especially if you were in a long-term relationship before hand?
Outside of kinky protocols, what’s the real differences?
I have a feeling your answers are going to be much different from mine. See, to me the differences are mainly sex and kink, all the rest falls under a good and close relationship dynamic, kinky or vanilla.
So when I say I cook from scratch every night, things that He likes, I would and did do it anyway …..
When I say I spend time everyday thinking on what He needs and how I can help make His life easier, I did that anyway.
When I say I spoke with respect and was mindful of my tone and manners, I did that anyway.
As a matter of fact, I had always asked for His opinion on things and He always did have final say, whether He knew it or not. We always discussed things and worked together for the betterment of us and our family.
Communication, respect, manners, openness, honesty. Those are all things I see as a committed relationship. Putting energy into being with and pleasing each other, taking care of one another mind, body and soul.
To me these are all things that need to be there before I commit to a relationship, I can’t imagine why you would be in one without them.
So tell me, what is the difference besides the kink? Or is my experience just that much different?
He might not have spanked my behind in the past for overstepping but one look or word of disappointment would have stopped me in my tracks then too. As a matter of fact I haven’t been disciplined in over 3 years. I have practiced being this way for 23 years now ….. so I have a hard time trying to figure out what D/s things to write about when to me, it’s just life. Besides the sex and kink.
So what have you found? What’s the difference to you?