If you are a self-righteous, sanctimonious j@ckAss who runs around constantly stating or insinuating that ‘nilla is not as good as you, as connected as you, as deep in meaning as you because you practice your version of BDSM than I will call you out on it, I will stand my ground and I will show the ridiculous hypocrisy of your ideals vs. your actions.
If your life preaching can’t stand the heat, perhaps it’s not as ‘right’ as you say it is.
Please, by all means have your opinions based on your life experiences but don’t run around preaching it as THE WAY of things. State it as YOUR experience, YOUR ‘nilla relationships, YOUR issues.
Most of the hate and intolerance I see comes from ‘lifestylers’. Hate towards each other, hate towards people who don’t fit their preferred way of doing things. Words like ‘true’ and ‘real’.. pressuring people into relationships and situations they don’t want because they are not ‘real’ or ‘good’ or ‘true’ if they don’t.
Hate towards the vanilla world. Vanilla is now a derogatory term?? Get over yourself. I know plenty of vanilla friends who live and love honestly and fully. They are connected, they are together without fear or shame. They are much more understanding and accepting than the part of the ‘community’ I have been made privy to.
*** Note: Not everyone in the community is like this, but there are many, many out there pressuring and oppressing. If that is what it now means to be kinky, to be a BDSMer, to be D/s than COUNT ME OUT! ***
I don’t give a rat’s ass what you call me or what you want to label me. I am strong, opinionated, feisty and a fighter. I am able to stand on my own two feet and I choose to be my husband’s submissive.
I DO NOT need to be quiet and keep my thoughts and needs to myself. I will NOT go quietly. I will be heard, I will be taken care of, I will voice my needs and I will be happy. I will not be forced into playing with others, I will not be forced into anything. If that doesn’t fit into your version of submissive so be it, but do not tell me or others that we are wrong, or that we are not good enough!
Michael Makai was right, the Warrior Princess will need to stand up and fight for the lifestyle. I wonder if he knew that the real fight was within the lifestyle itself?
**After an interesting read from a fellow respected blogger I felt it necessary to add that I neither read nor follow Makai’s way of thinking. The one sentiment referenced carried no more meaning than the sentence itself. **
This is a life style choice, it’s supposed to be fun, it’s supposed to be enjoyed. When it becomes miserable or mentally unhealthy than it’s time to stop.
This is not however a higher calling. It is not superior to any other lifestyle.
And Yes, this is MY OPINION. Unlike the things I have read, I’m not trying to preach or force it onto anyone.