A lot of my posts are from my point of view of course. That is what I know best after all!! *giggle* I’m going to try something different, I’m going to try to write something from His perspective …. let’s hope He approves!
It’s important here to remember that when we got into this adventure neither of us had any experience in the BDSM lifestyle. The Bear was not the one to ask for this and honestly, with some of the very ‘interesting’ things you can find and read out there, He was reluctant at best, against it … almost! So ….
Sir has never been an expectant person, which is partially why it was important to do this. He didn’t have expectations and didn’t ask or insist on anything BUT that doesn’t mean He didn’t have needs. He just didn’t think on them or voice them.
This would be why eventually I was doing everything and He was left feeling very unfulfilled, as was I. A few kinky romps in the bedroom and I thought, humm, He seems much more confident and happy when He has this ‘energy’. Perhaps this would translate well to the rest of our days.
Which leads me to His needs. It took a very long time to try to put a word or name to anything He might actually need because the idea is so foreign. (It wasn’t much different for me, being on the submissive side is not my norm and voicing needs isn’t either. But this post is about Him.)
We/I have tried various times to put it down on paper but the words never seem to flow.
One thing He needs is a bit of a ‘brat’. Something to keep Him invested and focused so that He can offer up corrections and keep the energy high.
Unfortunately I am the furthest thing from a ‘brat’. I’m a perfectionist. If He wants something done I go above and beyond to make sure it is to the absolute best of my ability. In anything, work, play, communicating, manners ….
When you add all the craziness of the every day around here it leaves little time to get into these deep conversations about needs and requirements! Sometimes the only needs are a quiet place to put our feet up for 15 minutes. For both of us!! LoL
There is very little time usually to get into that ‘other plane’ for us. One of the reasons this new day collar is nice. I think it’s one of His needs as well, to see it, to feel it, to give Him ‘that’ feeling.
Thinking out loud here … I can’t brat but I can do some posturing when no one is around. I find that works well for Him, and when I see and feel that energy from Him it also works for me. 😀
…. write it out, solve the issue …. thanks for taking a ride in my brain! LoL
Happy Tuesday! Does this qualify as a TMI post?? *giggle*