A role to be molded into?


I am His submissive but I can’t say that I am ‘a’ submissive, perhaps that’s why sometimes things really make we wonder if I want to remove the word from this site entirely.

The idea that I couldn’t speak my mind simply to keep Him in an unending state of Masterly bliss confounds me.

What joy is there in being able to say you are the leader of something that has no will power of its own anyway? Something that never thinks for itself, never has original ideas or could never provide a worthy opponent.

I often take the lead in the real world, make decisions and help those in need of guidance but I admit that when I find myself in the midst of a bunch of ‘yes men’ it loses it’s luster very quickly.

There is no real ‘boost’ when I can see that if not me it could easily be someone else, anyone could lead that ship ….. there is no challenge.

So tell me Sir, would you rather mold me into my ‘proper role’, or would you rather continue with this …..


No need to answer Sir, I know what happens when I seem tame! LoL

Happy Monday! ❀


8 thoughts on “A role to be molded into?

    1. Different strokes I suppose …. just don’t tell me I’m ‘wrong’ or not good enough. Or not ‘true’, LoL That’s my favourite! πŸ˜› *chuckle*

      Thanks for commenting!

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  1. This is why I have this user name. I am His. Do I ask permission of some things?? Yes and it’s mostly due to the situation I had. Safety first. But….I do have a mind of my own and speak it…..proudly. I am outside the box and He is happy with that!! You are right lady….I am not β€˜a’ sub. I am His submissive Lily.πŸ’ž

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  2. Hi Nijntje it is the fire inside you that makes each time you submit all the more exciting for your Bear. Blind submission is no challenge. Besides sweetheart I can’t imagine you being a complete, docile ‘yes girl’ πŸ™‚ ❀

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    1. LoL Thanks, Kitten!

      Docile and ‘yes girl’ are probably the exact opposites of who I am but it is fun to challenge those who believe this idea is the only, ‘true’ way! πŸ˜‰

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  3. I know for me I am no one’s submissive I am not submissive, I choose to be submissive to him and he wouldn’t change me one bit the is one of the things that attracted him he says. I am not a submissive I dont care for others definitions of it. It actually is about us not anyone else.and shouldn’t be IMO

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    1. Thank you for your comment, Ashley Lee. πŸ™‚

      I agree with you that it really should be about what works best for you and yours and has nothing to do with what others have decided is the only ‘true’ way. I would say that is the general consensus among married couples.

      This post was a product of a few different encounters with the ‘way things are done’ in the part of the community that seems to be more TPE (or whatever) first and relationship second. It’s a challenge to the idea that a ‘true’ whatever needs to lose their identity and become a molded label that has been apparently well adapted by some.


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