After a short back and forth yesterday I thought it might be wise to write out the rules, or some, in case there are some of you who do pay attention and wonder how I went from ‘no rules’ to talking about new rules!! LoL
The post about no rules covered mostly kink and sex type rules, basically anything that was mostly D/s inspired. It was a kinky ‘reset’. Rules about respect (not that we require a rule on that) and basic house hold duties didn’t change but then I never needed rules to tell me to clean the house or cook dinner etc. I cook probably 9 nights out of 10(when I’m able which is almost always), I enjoy it. The Bear always has home-made something to take to work for lunch, etc.
There is a rule on chores but the rule is I’m not allowed to over do it! I have to stop when my body says it’s had enough and trouble comes if I end up ‘down and out’ because I did too much, not the other way around. That ‘rule’ didn’t go anywhere either! This applies to yard work, going out shopping or simply going for a dog walk. If I can’t or shouldn’t I have to say so otherwise …. well you get the idea!
The rule about plugs I wrote out here, although due to a mishap I have had a bit of a reprieve from that …. anywho. That was one that was reinstated.
Rules that didn’t take a hiatus:
- Wear my cuffs and something around my neck (usually a choker during work, sometimes just a necklace) daily
- kneel at bed time for ritual and sleep collar
- if my hands or feet are cold I am to warm them up on the Bear, no excuses
- naked in bed unless I ask to wear pjs or socks etc.
(It’s a rule but ever since I no longer needed to be up in the middle of the night for the kids I never wore pjs anyway, never have. I used to start off in them 10-15 min. because of my raynaud’s and take them off when I got warmed up but now the Bear warms me up! *giggle*)
Rules that were pretty much instantly reinstated:
- Sir opens all doors when we are together
- no panties when not working
- I only refer to Him as Sir, Bear or Mr. ____ On rare occasions when it would cause a problem I may use His given name
- the kitchen/dishes need to be clean and tidy before He gets home from work (This is one I had asked for because I found myself making excuses! and I hated the outcome, a messy kitchen!)
Rules that came back over time:
- The plug rule but Sir is the one to say so, it’s not an instant thing for me to do without direction
- I need to ask permission to orgasm (It became a rule again over time but I never got out of the habit of asking anyway so …. )
- I need to ask to ‘play’ (this decision He dragged on for ‘ever’! LoL I think that was His way of teasing, He knew I wouldn’t unless I had an actual answer from Him anyway. Evil!)
Everything else, at the moment, is up in the air so I am free to touch and tease and ask for whatever I want and of course He gets to decide if He’s going to go along and allow it or not. I will often walk by and smack Him on the backside! *wink* There is NO RULE … but for some reason He always gets to ‘reprimand’ that one. *raspberries*
Oh yeah, and *raspberries*, if He feels they come with attitude THAT one gets a reaction as well! LoL Oh well, such is life I guess.
Basically we’re much more playful, I used to put myself in such a state of following that I did nothing without permission and nothing that was even remotely ‘out of line’. Now I play and tease and ‘poke the Bear’ as they say … sometimes He laughs and sometimes He grabs me and spanks my little back side good! Usually both! So win, win I’d say!! *giggle*
It also makes things more obvious, if I kneel for Him He sees it, if I haven’t yet and He wants me to He has to order it, so He sees that too … It’s just more obvious when it’s not on ‘auto pilot’!
Oh yeah, a new rule, I can’t have any drinks near my lap top. Earlier this week I dropped and entire glass of wine on my PC! Yikes, that was not a thing I wanted to have to tell Him! Hence the new rule. In case you’re wondering, no I hadn’t even had a drink yet. My body has decided to not cooperate once in a while and my wrist and arms don’t move like I’d like them to. I accidentally knocked it over when I was reaching for something else. Life!
So will the ‘new’ one about bare bottoms stick, will it simply be something He orders from time to time? I don’t know, but it was a bit of fun and produced a big grin from the Bear!! *giggle*
Happy Friday Folks! Hope I’ve cleared some stuff up!