Personally I hate stereotypes (sorry). Maybe it’s because I’ve been the subject of enough of them, maybe because I have fought against enough of them, maybe because I now find myself fighting them for my kids … likely all of those things I suppose.
I wear many hats in my day, depending on what’s going on around me and what’s most important on the to-do list. Each one of those stations requires a specific set of skills but that doesn’t mean I don’t posses others. I’m simply tapping into the ones that are required here and now.
Some of this might be my personality type, most of it might just be individual to me, who knows. I have been called many things in my life but the one constant is ‘different’. I suppose some people might be put off by that but frankly I revel in it.
My oldest once asked me what the worst thing was that someone could say to me. I told him ‘to be called normal’. *chuckle* I’m not like anyone else and I really have never wanted to fit in. I’m fine with that, even more than fine, I’m proud of that!
It leaves a certain distaste for stereotypes!
I like to look further, dig deeper and view people for who they are and not what they look like, where they come from, or who they are related to. It takes more time and more brain power but to me, it’s still the right way to be.
Ironic since I now find myself in a quasi battle for submission and the fact that it does not equal quiet, meek and without power. Don’t you think …. ?
nijntje & The Bear 
I have had this discussion with Sir and I said to him, because I am a person that enjoys a certain level of pain in our play did that make him a sadist? He quickly said no which puzzled me. He then explained that being lumped in a single word meant there was the stereo typical ideal of what that means. He is not comfortable with being lumped into a single name. He has elements of a sadist but that comes with love and care. I am submissive but that isn’t all I am. I love what you wrote and it gives us pause to consider our own selves.and the complicated people we are. Once more beautiful article.
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Thank you, Kitten! Advocating for thinking for oneself has been a life long adventure! LoL I’m with your sir, why be lumped into just one idea, that is stifling. You’ve probably noticed by now that I’m not one for labels!
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