Submissive AND Independent

I wrote this a couple of years ago and it was brought to my mind again today. Since I’m short on time anyway I thought I’d re-blog. I have high expectations of my dominant, why shouldn’t I? If you expect me to give you all the power than I better be your first priority, always. I also wrote ‘Self Advocating‘, might be a worthwhile read as well, especially if you are just starting out.Β 

To me a very large part of my personality is my independence and I have no want to change that aspect of myself! Neither does my Sir … it’s one of the things he finds extremely attractive as a matter of fact. I think it’s also one thing that makes my submission to Him much more humbling but at the same time empowering and confidence building for Him.

He knows I am very capable of taking care of not only myself but everyone else as well. I don’t get frustrated or overwhelmed by stressful situations I actually excel in that atmosphere. I am not needy or helpless and the truth is I am the person that most run to in times of crises. The domination of nijntje is a ‘ONE OF’ I can assure you.

Sir has earned my trust and my respect and shown me that I can come to Him and trust Him with my inner most demons. As I have said before, being submissive means that I am not alone. I can come to Him and expect to be cared for and guided in anything I might choose to bring Him.

I am not submissive to Him because I think I can’t manage without Him, I don’t call Him Sir because he said so and I don’t kneel for him because he insisted. Quite the contrary, I give myself freely to Him because he has helped me to realize just how strong and powerful I really am. He has made me see things in myself and give myself credit for just how good I really am. He has built me to such a level that I know I can take on the world if I need to.

I submit to Him because he has made me strong enough to ….

Love You Always Sir ❀


17 thoughts on “Submissive AND Independent

  1. A great post to be seen again nijntje. You are still the strongest and most capable person I know. I am so proud that you have chosen to call me Sir.

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    1. You’re welcome, I’m glad it was worth your read! πŸ™‚
      My early posts were much more about reconciling the idea of being ME and being His submissive, because I really don’t consider myself one. Not with anyone else anyway, if that makes sense.

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  2. I didn’t catch this the first time around, so I’m glad to see it reposted. There’s one part that I’m a little befuddled by though. When you said, “The domination of nijntje is a β€˜ONE OF’ I can assure you.” did you mean ‘ONE OFF’, or something else?

    If it’s a One of, then what are the others? Just need a little more information to understand it better. Thanks.

    Referencing my girl to this post, btw. Giving it a little signal boost.

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    1. Well, it was actually supposed to read ‘off’ – just my ethnic roots popping in! πŸ˜‰

      Now that you have pointed it out however, I could say it’s one ‘of’ the many aspects of my personality that make up who I am as a whole.

      Being submissive to the Bear is not something I have ever done before or would consider doing again but it is also just a very small part of what makes me , me.

      Let’s just say that without the Bear I likely would have never gone down this road. πŸ˜€ When I think of myself over all, ‘submissive’ is not anywhere near the top of the list. That’s not to imply it’s a good or bad thing, it’s just not my natural state with anyone else. I might have just confused things even more …. *chuckle*


  3. Reblogged this on The Oregon Influence and commented:
    I’m always fascinated with love and the various forms it takes with communication and intimacy. I appreciate that this writer allows into her private life so that we may learn a little bit about ourselves in the process.

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    1. Thank you for the re-blog, oregoninfluence. πŸ™‚ And feel free to ask anything you might be curious of. I can only answer from my own experience of course but that is part of the reason I’m here, in blogland! πŸ™‚

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