In my opinion the world at large could use a lot more respect. There certainly seem to be a great deal of rude and self-serving individuals everywhere you look and I for one think it’s truly a sad state of affairs. Don’t get me wrong, there are not very many people who actually do gain my respect but that doesn’t mean I can’t act respectfully.
I hold very high standards for myself, it’s part of my dominant personality, it’s part of my personality in general. If you haven’t yet, go ahead and check it out, it will give you a better idea of my perspective. The point is that if they can’t meet me at the same standards of being and behaving than I really don’t have any way of finding that feeling of respect for them. That being said, the truth is that they likely will never know.
Behaving in a respectful manner is not because the other person deserves it, it’s because I demand it, of myself. Excuses like ‘they drive me crazy, they made me behave this way, they are stressing me out ……’ none of that matters in my book. There is only one person who controls the way I think and feel and behave, ME!
I read somewhere that someone was taking control of their behaviour by stepping away from a conversation when things got heated BUT worrying that perhaps it wasn’t a ‘submissive’ thing to do although it was something they needed their dominant to provide for them, time to process and calm down before continuing.
Personally I don’t find that counter productive to submission at all, I think more people should use that method in more of their daily lives, more of their relationships in general. The difference between the dominant side of my life and the submissive side to the Bear is simple:
The Warrior: I’m walking away now, and I will be back to this when I am ready. I suggest you calm yourself as well.
The bunny: I’m getting pretty upset Sir and I need a moment to get my thoughts in order, please.
As far as I’m concerned this is a good way to behave from both sides of the dynamic, and like I said before, anywhere you are dealing with another person. Patience, respect, humility, kindness, self-control, they belong on both sides of ‘the slash’.
TGIF! Love You Always, Sir ❤