I’m still dominant

When we first started with D/s and trying to understand what and how we would go about it my husband was very unsure. I am and always have been a dominant personality so to try to understand how or why I would want a dominant myself was really an interesting contradiction.

I don’t mean domineering or what you would consider a ‘vanilla nagging wife’. I mean dominant, all the same qualities that you look for in your own Dom/Sir/Master/Mistress. I still have those qualities, they haven’t changed and I use that part of me all the time. It’s also why I have very high standards of my own dominant, I have been told that is unfair in the past and that my husband should lead simply because it’s His right, because that’s what we decided …. yeah that doesn’t fly here. I wish submissives out there, especially single or looking ones would use these standards too but that is another post entirely!

Anyhow back to why this appealed to me outside of the sex of course, we’ve covered that as far as I’m willing to go! 😉 But why move into a 24/7 relationship and not just play kinky on the weekend?

Well the answer came to me by way of a song, that’s not unusual, music has been important to me since day one, it has always given me the words when I didn’t have them or at the very least the ‘feel’ …

I listened to every word carefully and I knew that’s what Sir has been saying to me since the beginning even if He didn’t have the words either. So I played it for Him and I asked Him. I told Him my idea of a dominant, my need was to have someone who wanted it all, and who then would pick me back up and put me back together …. because I started packing it up by the age of 4, the armor came around age 8 and taking care of those around me ever since left no room for my baggage. I needed someone as strong and as secure as me, I needed someone to do for me what I do for everyone else.

So I asked Him to listen and I asked Him to answer truthfully, and I said my idea of a dominant is much more about this than any kink or protocol. We could work on all of that! 😉 Do you still want it all Sir?

Meet me where the sunlight ends
Meet me where the truth never bends
Bring all that you’re scared to defend

And lay it down when you walk through my door
Throw all of it out on the floor
Your sorrow, your beauty, your war
I want it all, I want it all

Bring your secrets, bring your scars
Bring your glory, all you are
Bring your daylight, bring your dark
Share your silence
And unpack your heart

Show me something the rest never seen
Give me all that you hope to receive
Your deepest regret dies with me

The days when you stumble and fall
The days when you grind to a crawl
The treasure that hides behind your walls
I want it all, yeah I want it all

Bring your secrets, bring your scars
Bring your glory, all you are
Bring your daylight, bring your dark
Share your silence
And unpack your heart
Then unpack your heart

Oh, I’m on your side
So shed your shadow
And watch it rise

Oh, I’m on your side
So shed your shadow
And watch it rise
Into your darkness
I’ll shine a light

Bring your secrets, bring your scars
Bring your glory, all you are
Bring your daylight, bring your dark
Share your silence

Bring your honor, bring your shame
All your madness, I will tame
Won’t you lay down, down your guard
Share your silence
And unpack your heart

Written by Derek Fuhrmann, Gregg Wattenberg, Todd Clark, Phillip Phillips • Copyright © Sony/ATV Music Publishing LLC, Universal Music Publishing Group, Downtown Music Publishing

When I kneel for him all that pressure of the world goes away, even just for a little while. I can exhale because come what may He’s got me. Yes I’m still dominant but I’m also his ‘little girl’. 😀

The titles, pictures and crazy stories of red rooms was not what made Him want to own me, this idea was though! Being responsible for me is what drives Him, the kink is the icing on the cake! 😉

Happy Hump Day!

Love You Always my Wonderful Sir ❤