I hate that it’s back to work like everyone else and that the fun and free time and energy I get with Sir has to wait, but …. 😉
There is something to love about having to spend most of the day standing or at the edge of your chair, sitting on just one cheek! LOL Should I get a pillow? a more comfortable chair? stay tilted to one side? or torture myself by sitting flat down! LOL
So many decisions to be made, and on a Monday no less!!
I often read sites that are picked to help me check my priorities and test my boundaries. There are as many dynamics and opinions as there are people and relationships.
Many times I run into ideas that are simply not for me, and that is okay! It doesn’t make me wrong or less, it simply makes me an individual and that is what I want to be anyway.
Ideas are great and learning is always good but the only one who knows what the answer is for your life is you. If it goes against everything you believe in or simply makes you more miserable than it does happy then let it go!
It doesn’t make you less or weak, it makes you strong enough to stand straight and say no!
Happy Sunday All! Chase YOUR Dream, not someone else’s … 😀
I’ve been finding myself dragging my feet a little bit lately when it comes to doing the daily submissive tasks that are assigned to me.
Everything gets done but it’s just maybe slower and with less thought put towards it than I would like. I haven’t got the opportunity right now to get strung up from the ceiling or led around the house on a leash so …… those types of play will usually leave me with a longer lasting effect than just the play time itself. Schedule lately hasn’t left much opportunity for that so things have been much tamer in nature ….
Normally I’m in contact with Sir through the day where He will add something to my day, or make a kinky order to be followed through with, but lately His work has been busier days than before and the contact is fleeting at best.
What do you do in order to ‘bump up’ your submissive mind-set?
I tend to rely on physical actions to help me clear my mind and focus on my goals but I don’t always have that time afforded to me through out the day.
Do you wait for your dominant to give the orders or do you go and quietly kneel on your own to find focus and balance until they can be with you again?
Today is Self Injury Awareness Day and I had originally just written my story here, but after some thought I decided that I should share the reason for my views on this site as well.
This speaks to the reason I have my hard limits and why I don’t think that a ‘cutter’ should ever use that as a kink.
I believe first and foremost that you are responsible for taking care of your own mental and emotional baggage before you start any sort of BDSM play if you truly want to fall under the safe, sane and consensual category. I also believe that no dominant can ever cure you of your ‘crazy’ whatever that might be simply by taking control of your life for you.
A spouse or partner should never be put in the position of dealing with or being responsible for anything of that nature. Have you ever heard of doctors or psychiatrists treating their own family and friends? Of course not …
And please no one point out that ridiculous movie that seems to imply that by simply finding a dominant your need for self harm will disappear! UGH! That was a fictional story …
I believe that if you have actually used cutting or some other form of self-injury in the past as a form of coping with mental issues the last thing you want to do is ‘play’ with it now. If you have truly gotten over the need than putting the knife in someone else’s hand is simply going to bring it and all the emotional and psychological issues back. If the way you got over it was simply to put the knife in someone else’s hand than you are not over it at all …. I’m afraid that’s simply a, ummm, ‘different pile’.
Self harm is an addiction used as a coping mechanism no different from drugs and alcohol. Would you tell a recovering alcoholic that they are safe to have a drink simply because it is their dominant who is controlling it and calling the shots?
My hard limits are all based on the things I did in the past to help me deal with life, they are things that became my addictions and nothing I want to relapse.
I view BDSM as a relaxing thing, a massage of the body and soul not a way to cope with life or hide away from my pain. I use BDSM when I am already happy and fulfilled, I’m just looking to relax.