Is it commonly accepted that you will get punished for asking for help from your dominant when you find yourself in a bad situation, simply because it will alter His/Her plans to have to help you … ???
For example, you are to be out because it is their ‘alone time’ but have found yourself in a less than favorable position …. so you need to get back home. Is that a “punishable offense”?
I know my opinion, what’s yours?
Of course not, your safety should be first priority.
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I was a bit flabbergasted upon reading it, but I have never been in the scene, community or what have you so I thought I’d put it out there. Thank you for chiming in! 😀
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I had this happen to an old friend. They were poly and he was with someone at the house. She went on a date that went bad. I told her to call him. He told her come home now. Anyone that would turn theor sub away is a douchedom
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Subs willing hand over power as anything else is abuse. Would you willing give power to one who doesn’t have your best interest in mind? A good leader wouldn’t keep a follower at bay, they would summon them closer.
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Would I give over power …? well …. I know you meant it rhetorically but …
Personally I think that if you haven’t the mental stability or fortitude of character, on either and both sides, to figure out the D/s from the B/s you shouldn’t be in it.
I also tend to have pretty high expectations of what constitutes a good leader, history has taught me to take no exceptions. But that’s just my personal story …
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Yep, yep
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There should never ever ever be punishment for seeking safety from one’s partner. I don’t care what the dynamic is, that is inexcusable. When I am upset, Boyfriend is the first person I turn to. He is my safety and shelter. That is how it should be; if one cannot rely on one’s partner to aid them when needed, what is the point?
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I agree, thanks for commenting. 😀
I’m still not certain if I’ll comment to where I saw it but I am glad to know I’m not the only one thinking this way.
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Okay, I commented, just gently because it seems they are very young and just starting to figure this out ….. but I hope they respond by looking further into the lifestyle they have chosen. It appears they have a lot of questions, I hope they go looking some where other than FSOG for information.
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I would hope that isn’t a punishable offense. If it is, the next time something like that happens, the person might stay in an unsafe environment, just to avoid punishment. Safety should always be the #1 rule.
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