Just because He says He’s a DOM doesn’t mean He is …

(This is absolutely not about my life or my husband, but sometimes I read things that really make me wonder.)

“Dominants” don’t make excuses.

I’m not implying that anyone is or should be perfect, that is unrealistic. What I am saying is that my idea of a dominant does not make excuses for their bad behaviour or blame the submissive and claim that she should have known better.

Everyone makes mistakes, but to me a dominant owns His mistakes, takes steps to correct them and moves forward. Apologize ……

…. and if you have caused any damage to your submissive you damn well better turn around and do your best to FIX IT!

Blaming someone for your behaviour is an excuse, not a valid reason. Even if they did behave improperly …..

Dear submissive – You have a right to be treated with respect and care … regardless of your title or dynamic. Showing no restraint or self-control and then excusing it is the epitome of vanilla, even if He is KINKY!

Not a post, just a rant I know Sir … I’ll get off my soap box now and go back to some r&r.