(I thought I should explain so no one worried.)
I’ve found myself recently with plenty of available brain power and nothing with which to keep occupied. Of course this leads the bunny to start thinking, and over thinking and plotting ….. etc. etc. ….
I’ve always had a huge imagination and normally I can keep the buffer between real and perceived in check. Lately the line has been getting a bit blurry … perhaps knowing the Bear will always catch me has given me a bit too much ‘puff and stuff’.
Does an action need to be kink inspired in order to be dominant? Does it need to involve plugs and clamps in order to be considered dominant?
The things I have been reading on lately involve mostly submissives being cared for and calmed through butt plugs, nipple clamps and bondage of some sort …. Tasks and orders are given in a kink inspired manner in order to help them keep their minds and spirits in a happy place, fair enough.
The fact however is that if I am worried or upset or frustrated the last thing I want is for my Sir to give me kink inspired orders to ‘fix’ the situation.
When I am in need of His support He takes care of me and makes sure I know He is with me in a different manner. I get told to wear His ring around my neck if He is not with me, I get His hand on the small of my back and a kiss on the forehead when He is here, I get words of support in my ear and I get told to give my frustrations over to Him and He will take them off my shoulders.
I get told how strong I am and that I can ‘do this’ or I get told to let go and He will carry me. I get told to put my hand on my face and pretend it is His if He is away and when He’s home I get told to come and sit so He can put His arms around me a while ….
I don’t get told to go get plugged or clamped because He knows that when I’m actually in need of care that would set me off on the wrong path. That would frankly piss me off and make me wonder why the heck He has sex on the brain when I need support and a strong hand to guide me now …
The only time I want kink inspired ‘help/care’ is when everything else is already fine and balanced and He keeps it that way for me by the dominant acts that are appropriate for me.
Apparently not having a plug in my arse has left a bored bunny plenty of room to put my head in it instead! Fortunately it was made apparent to me just what I was sounding like very quickly through some email correspondence. That’s why I’m taking a break from Neverland for a short bit to focus on and remember what MY needs actually are and what I have right here, in my world.
Learning new things and ideas is great but it is important the one does not forget who they really are in the process ….
So I ask you again, does an act of dominance need to be kinky in some way every time in order to be considered effective and 24/7?
What if it’s only kink based some times and calm, strong and controlled for the rest ….. ? Is that any less dominant? Is that any less consistent? Is that any less 24/7 … ?
Pulling my head out of my arse now Sir! Thank you for your patience ….
Love You Always Sir ❤