A new twist …. for balance.

I’m really liking this new system of checks and balances you have implemented Sir. It’s leaving me feel validated and ‘owned’ and wanted. I feel like I have your attention and that my efforts are worth while … I don’t feel like I have to bratt to get attention because frankly I just can’t do it.

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Although there is a lot of playfulness and teasing in our relationship the level and intensity of the interaction is not the same as what a bratt/correction would be and I have a feeling that’s why many choose to go that way. The smiles and giggles from both sides automatically make the intensity less charged.

I imagine that by being bratty and having to be kept in check and corrected the connection is intense and the feeling of control heightened, in effect actually rewarding the bad behaviour. I guess that’s fine if it works for the couple/relationship, but it doesn’t work for me.

I’m a warrior to my core and nothing else, I don’t mean some label that gets thrown around for anyone who wants to label themselves, I mean I am really. I don’t bratt and I don’t test, I call out inconsistencies and I fight. To me the only reason to fight is because there is an injustice that needs to be sorted and settled, and one does not eventually submit to that, one fights to the end. If I choose to fight you it would be to the end, not really a good way to maintain anything is it?!?!

To be completely honest I have long thought that perhaps me being too good was becoming boring and uninteresting to you, it leaves nothing to be ‘corrected’ and nothing to spark the fire you could say. I also don’t think testing the ‘fight’ theory would be a very wise choice, not for me anyway. I’ll be completely frank … If I was to get to the point of calling you an a-hole and slamming the door behind me I would not be coming back. I pick my words and actions wisely, not frivolously and I keep myself in check. I might be your submissive but I’m ultimately ruled by my mind not my emotions. No one sees those but you, and only because you are in complete control or I just couldn’t let them out …

I guess what I’m trying to say is that I am very much enjoying this level of commitment and energy that you are putting towards me, towards us. It’s not that I’m one for keeping score because I think that’s an awful way to live but I can’t deny that sometimes things feel very much more one-sided than I think they should be in a healthy relationship. This presents and interesting conundrum since I haven’t really left anything for you to ‘do’ let’s say.

I’m glad you’ve found a way to test my limits and push me farther, you’ve found a way to impose your dominance even when everything is still as it should be and nothing needs to be corrected, you’ve found a way to recharge my submission and assert your dominance even though nothing is amiss …. I’m getting the intensity of energy and attention for being a ‘good girl’! And it comes with rewards ….. so I don’t need to misbehave to feel the charge! Balanced ….

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Your actions are leaving me feeling connected to you, and not just like I’m doing it on my own and for myself. I feel like you want to be in control of me, and I don’t need to test that theory because I can feel it! 😀

Sometimes the simple answer is the right one, no need to over think it!

I’ve been ‘good’ for you for so long that it just feels like second nature …. and now with your added attention it feels like I’m actively submitting again. I like that! and being noticed and rewarded is pretty great too!! LOL

We might not always have the opportunity for an intense play session but we can always have the feeling of an intense connection. Although a play session is always a good thing …. ! 😉

Love You Always Sir ❤

6 thoughts on “A new twist …. for balance.

  1. Hey I know this is off topic but I was wondering if you knew of any widgets I could add to my blog that automatically tweet my newest twitter updates. I’ve been looking for a plug-in like this for quite some time and was hoping maybe you would have some experience with something like this. Please let me know if you run into anything. I truly enjoy reading your blog and I look forward to your new updates.


    1. Hi there, sorry but I don’t use twitter or any other form of online posting. I’m afraid I can’t help you there …
      I’m glad you enjoy the blog though, and thanks for stopping in and commenting! 😀


  2. Hi dave thank you for your comment! You are completely right bratting isn’t the only way and I’m glad I’ve been able to find a way to be connected without it, or more correctly Sir has found a way.
    After 22 years it can be difficult to have that level of energy if we’re both not on board with actively maintaining it. New relationships are always exciting and fresh, it’s nice for me to know that we can still have that too! 😀


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