There is a statement that keeps floating through my head from time to time. Something that was said to me a while back at a time that I just wasn’t mentally ready to deal with it to the fullest extent that I would like. Since I haven’t anything else really on my mind I think I’ll take a shot at my opinion on the subject now.
The statement was that when it comes to maintaining your D/s ‘sometimes it just isn’t possible. Some days limping together is the best people can do.’ I disagreed with the statement then and I disagree with it now.
Although I understand the idea behind the words and I understand why some people might feel that it is a valid and justified answer I myself disagree with the statement.
I know that this is strictly my own view and my own values at work here and that my particular personality has everything to do with that but I have never been one to accept ‘okay for now’ as good enough. I do not ‘settle’ at anything and certainly not at something that has become such a major part of my life and overall welfare. I can’t imagine any situation as to where I would and believe me I have been through plenty. But than I’ve always been a bit of a perfectionist … I have high expectations, that’s who I am.
First I keep a close eye on what’s going on and how I’m feeling and I’m always sure to let my Sir in on all the details. I don’t stop being submissive to Him because something came up or because I’m feeling down, or worn out or just out of my mind stressed and crazy, I do the opposite, I focus on submitting more.
When it comes to being the lead in this house Sir also does not allow things to stop or pause His place in this relationship. If something needs work than He works at it, He listens to me and He comes up with solutions. He’s no more okay with ‘good enough for now’ than I am. He has high expectations too, that’s why we work together …
Perhaps the key for us is that taking the lead does not mean being the only one who works or thinks about things and solutions. I often times will come up with a perfectly good way of dealing with whatever the situation, and Sir needs only sign off on it. Sometimes He listens to what I have to say but decides on a different direction, that’s His right for He’s the one in charge.
The point is I never stop deferring to Him and He never stops putting in the effort required to keep leading. Sometimes I’m better equipped to handle the situation for whatever the reason and we follow my suggestions, it doesn’t mean He’s not still ultimately in charge it just means that this isn’t His forte.
A good leader knows when to take control of a situation and when to delegate. In my opinion a good leader should be working towards making His/Her followers self-sufficient and strong. A good leader works to make Himself unnecessary by which creating trust and devotion. But now I’ve gotten a bit off topic.
So all in all I still don’t think limping is good enough, I think you get a cast and you stand up and move forward, you take care of the issue in such a way that allows you to keep moving forward and you don’t settle ….. but then again I’m not ‘A’ submissive, I’m only His submissive.
Love You Always Sir ❤