Not sure how much this is D/s related and how much it is not but in my opinion anything that causes changes in your general state of mind is going to affect your relationship, D/s or not. Lack of sleep is a big contributor to your general well being and mindset and therefor related to your D/s, at least that is my view.
In menopause lack of sleep usually becomes an issue at some point or another. The reasons are varied and no one fix exists for all unfortunately but I have found that my night sweats did become manageable after I made a few simple tweaks!
It seemed that no matter how warm or how cold the room was the night sweats were bound to happen. Some nights are worse then others and for me the furnace tends to kick into high gear within minutes of my head hitting the pillow. Generally it cycles throughout the night and for periods of time, then it eases off.
I’m not on any HRTs so my fixes are simple and easy to try even without a doctor’s visit. Most of these things I have learned from talking to other women and although none of them are huge secrets sometimes the idea doesn’t occur to you until you see it somewhere else first, so here is what I have learned so far!
The most effective way of dealing with the night sweats for me is to simply run a fan in the back ground. I can only guess that it is because of the constant air movement that the fan helps, it moves that barrier in between the air in the room and your body helping to move the heat away from your skin and just keeping you that much more comfortable. The temperature of the room itself seems to have much less to do with the sweats but the air movement works wonders. I think back now and realized that most of my friends who are also blessed with this Beast also sleep with a fan on every night. No one ever put the two together exactly but they all know that they sleep better regardless.
The fan I find also helps to provide white noise that helps to ignore the ticking of the clock, the cat walking down the hall and the voices in my head that don’t give me a moments peace otherwise. Being able to concentrate on the same rhythm and sound over and over helps me to fall asleep faster then thinking and rethinking the same situations over and over again …. I had always needed absolute quiet and dark to sleep before but if you’re not getting any sleep why not try it, that’s what I did and I became accustomed to the fan surprisingly quick.
Flannel sheets! I know you think this is counter intuitive but trust me you’ll sleep better. They actually do not feel any warmer then regular sheets but think of cotton flannel sheets as your towel for sleep time. Just as your towel dries you off out of the shower so to do the sheets when you are sweating your butt off. More often then not once your episode is done your sheets will have absorbed enough of your heat that you don’t get awoken due to a now very cold clammy and wet bed. I used to get up in the night and have to lay down towels anyway because my side was so wet and uncomfortable to sleep in, I didn’t want to wake Sir to strip the bed and besides just how awake do you want to get before you can fall back to sleep in the middle of the night? Sleep is already at a premium at this stage, the sheets can be changed later. Although they are not a cure all the flannel sheets are surprisingly well worth a try.
Alcohol of course is a big contributor to night sweats and the consensus is that red wine is the worst offender. I have tested this theory out and can tell you that just half a glass is more then enough to make one think of joining the polar bear club! 😉 I did hear once that vodka was apparently not a problem in this particular respect but I have yet to test that theory. (I am not suggesting anyone should be drinking anything, I’m just letting you know what I’ve heard! LOL)
And just like all other times in life a healthy diet and good amount of exercise are always important along with taking care of yourself emotionally and managing or preferably avoiding stress (yeah right)!
By the way, the fan keeps you just cool enough usually to be able to cuddle up just a bit longer without either of you over heating and having to break free! 😀