Submission is doing what He wants but it is also not getting upset when there is something He doesn’t want, if His plans don’t match mine or if He just wants something different right now.
If He chooses not to give directions on how my day is to be run then I submit to that want. If He has no need to manage my spending then I will submit to that want. Getting upset because His plan does not match mine is not submission, it’s still leading. Being responsible for myself because that is what He wants, that is submission because it pleases Him. Coming to Him if there is an actual issue and not bothering Him with all sorts of pointless decisions to make, that is submission because that is what makes Him happy. That is what He wants!
Everyone is different and everyone’s wants and needs are different. To submit to your dominant you follow their lead, not someone else’s. The point is to please Him and if whatever list or ritual you have read about does not please Him then it’s not submitting for you to insist on getting it or getting upset because they are not doing it.
If this thing is one of your needs then put it under that umbrella. Bring it to their attention as a want or need of yours. Let them decide whether or not to indulge you and then submit to whatever decision they have made. They may decide yes to please you, that’s their right! They also might decide no … why would a ‘no’ make you happier? Be happy with the yes if that’s what you get, you must be pleasing them enough to have them want to indulge you. Go with it!
~ As you wish and however you wish Sir ~
Love You Always ❤