When we enter into this type of D/s or BDSM relationship we hear the ideas of Safe, Sane and Consensual at every opportunity but what about mind and body health and wellness? Being safe and sane about our bodies health wise and our minds is every bit as important as the rest.
Taking risks with our bodies to lose weight or fit into the kinky outfit now that we’ve started ‘playing’ is not safe and in some instances not sane either. There are a lot of ideas through pictures and porn that would lead you to believe you need to be a certain size or shape to be found sexy! The reality is the sexiest thing about most people is their demeanor, poise and attitude. Don’t believe me? Try it for yourself …. put something on that you find flattering and strut your stuff with happy confidence. People will notice, people will want to know your secret!
So now that we have that out of the way lets focus on the real important things in life. Being healthy physically is always a good idea regardless of what type of relationship you are in or even if you are not in a relationship at all. This is something you should be doing for yourself always. Keep things simple in regards to diet and don’t limit yourself to such a degree that you will either be miserable or fail and likely end up doing both. Being well-informed about what you are in fact consuming and making better choices in regards to food and portion size will normally do the trick. Add to that some regular daily activity and most people are well on their way to a healthy life style.
Depending on just where you are health wise you may or may not notice a change in your weight. The most important part here is health, not weight so I would suggest not putting an over amount of emphasis on it anyway. I personally don’t own a scale and never have, it would only serve to put focus on the wrong aspect of what I am trying to accomplish.
Some ways I have found for keeping a healthy weight are:
- eating more slowly – it takes a while for your body to actually register the amount you have consumed and if you eat too quickly you will have more than what you require
- drink lots of water – it is not unusual for thirst to be mistaken for hunger (I know right? who knew) so having a glass of water before you decide to go for that snack may actually cause you to eat less because you will realize you are not actually hungry after all
- pay attention – are you actually still hungry or are you just eating because it is there or you are bored
- the healthiest way to set up your plate is to divide it into four sections. lay butter knives in a X on the plate if you need to for help. the sections should be: veggie, veggie, protein, starch, meat portion should be the size of your palm, and veggies half a cup minimum. (thank you gp)
- take care of your emotional well-being – stress eating/or not eating is obviously not healthy and is bound to cause issues if you continue down that path
- add some sort of exercise to your day, it doesn’t need to be the gym or an all out training session to give you results in your overall health and it won’t be long before you have all sorts of new energy 😉
- if you choose to workout warm up with fifteen minutes of cardio minimum – this will tell your muscles that it’s time to release negative agents contained within them and warm them up to prevent injury – in addition never skip the cool down, letting your muscles cool down helps them relax and notifies the body to begin the healing process. (thank you gp)
The more comfortable you become with what you are doing the more you can add to your healthy routine. Just like everything else in life it takes patience and time to get it right and see results. And when you look in the mirror try to pretend it’s someone else you are looking at, are you still quite so critical of what you see?